My Unexpected Journey (Day 4)
Updated: Jun 4
(June 2, 2020)
My wife and I have been spending the past few days getting our house in order. It is extremely important to me that my family does not get left with a lot of confusion about how to handle things. I don’t know where my journey will take me, so I need to make sure all is in order. There are others who have joined this group that are on a similar journey, so I thought I would take this time to jot down some things that are important in case you have not thought about them.
The first is some sort of will or trust. If you have not done this it would be a good idea to get it done. We did our wills years ago, but have decided to set up a trust instead. Because of music royalties I get from my father’s estate and my own music, there will be ongoing income for years to come. A trust is a much better vehicle to handle this and you avoid any probate, which in some states can take a long time.
Your attorney can best guide you on what works best for your situation. Having a will or a trust gives you the chance to tell your loved ones what you want done with everything from your funeral to who gets your stuff. It will make sure that your remaining assets go to the person you want them to so that they will be taken care of after you are gone.
Statistics show that most people put it off until it is too late, which leaves a disaster for your loved ones. Having a well thought out will or trust makes sure that there is no conflict with your family because you have laid out details as to what happens with everything including your old grandmother's vase in the attic that you want to go to your granddaughter. You get the picture.
The next is life insurance. If you are healthy and you have family who rely on your income, you NEED life insurance. If you are already sick and can’t get a policy, there are a least policies that will cover your final expenses. Better than not having anything.
The next thing I recommend if you are facing what I am facing is end any conflicts you may have with family or friends. Forgive and forget, it will do your heart some good. Let everyone you love know how much they mean to you and how much you love them. Don’t put it off because you may not get the chance down the road.
Get creative and do things like create videos talking to family members & friends so they can pop them in the player anytime they want to feel close to you. I watched a movie of a guy who was dying and he recorded tapes for each of his daughter’s birthdays for years to come. Each birthday a family member who kept them safe would give it to her and it was such an incredible thing for her to spend that time with her father on her birthday.
My last thought is one that requires me to put my preacher hat on again. If you have not made peace with your maker get it done now. I have addressed most of this in my own life and are taking steps to finalize what is left to be done. Once it is complete I will be at peace to fight this cancer with everything I have. If you are following this blog you will notice several other people who are going through the same thing. Please consider adding them to your prayer list. They need it just as much as I do.
I love all of you and so does God,